March 1, 2024

“Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 (NIV)

When I told my husband I was working on a book about wives getting on husbands’ nerves, he said, “I could write that one!” He’s such a kidder. (Actually, I used many of my own flaws as fodder for this book.)

I mentioned to a friend I was writing a book for wives whose husbands were Christians but didn’t always act like one, and she responded, “Isn’t that ALL of them?”

When Your Loved One (3-Book Series)

When Your Wife Gets On Your Nerves - Or Worse by Mary Stone                When You Have an Unsaved Loved One by Mary Stone

  • When Your Wife Gets on Your Nerves—or Worse; 52 Verses to Bolster You
  • When Your Husband is a Christian—But Doesn’t Always Act Like One; 52 Verses to Lift You Up
  • When You Have an Unsaved Loved One; 52 Devotions to Give You Hope

These books’ 52 weeks of verses address concerns presented to me during my 30-some years as a Counselor helping individuals and couples work through relationship issues.

The intent of each weekly message is not to criticize your spouse but to provide a way for you to persevere in each circumstance and grow in Christ.

The books are not about how to have a perfect marriage but rather how to be victorious within an imperfect marriage.

The pages speak of some behaviors which are sin. However, the majority of these spousal behaviors fall into a category of irksome, or under behaviors that are less than honoring to the marriage. Each of the 52 situations can cause a rift in the relationship—unless you respond in a godly way, one which fosters your growth in Christ, and which will ultimately make a difference in your marriage. Although that doesn’t necessarily mean the circumstances will change, at least you will not be controlled by them.

Some of the 52 conditions I address in the books for spouses:

  • When your wife tries to change you . . .
  • When your wife demands to know where you are at all times . . .
  • When your husband won’t attend church with you . . .
  • When your husband criticizes your friends . . .
  • When your husband gets angry with you . . .

Following are pages from these books:

When Your Wife Gets On Your Nerves - Or Worse by Mary Stone

Week 13:  When Your Wife Gets on Your Nerves—or Worse

When your wife criticizes much of what you do . . .

“Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord. On the contrary:  ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.’”—Romans 12:19-20

 It is human nature to counterattack when being attacked. In fact, the enemy amps a person up to do just that. One might say the devil orchestrates fights within a marriage. A whisper here in the ears of God’s faithful servants . . . “He never does things right.” “He never cleans up after himself.” . . . a whisper there . . . “Well she’s one to talk. She squeezes the toothpaste in the middle and gets gunk all over the bathroom counter.” “She never puts laundry away until it piles up.” . . . and soon Satan gains ground to destroy what God has joined together.

These are the little foxes that spoil the vines as referred to in Solomon 2:15, which speaks of a romance preparing to bear fruit. Foxes are symbolic of potential threats to the relationship. It’s the little things that can spoil the love between you and your wife.

Pause to consider what your wife needs—what is she hungry for? What does she thirst for? Ask her these questions when you can both calmly decipher what is going on during times of criticism.

How does God’s presence help you accept your wife—flaws and all?

 

          

Week 7:  When Your Husband is a Christian—But Doesn’t Always Act Like One

When your husband walks away or ignores you when you are trying to engage him . . . 

“. . . the LORD hears when I call to him.”Psalm 4:3

It has been said to be dismissed or ignored is harder to bear than to be yelled at.

When your husband walks away, you may feel not only unheard but helpless in getting him to listen to you . . . as if you are not important to him and frozen out of his presence. If you raise your voice, you realize that only serves to escalate your feelings of powerlessness. The louder you yell, the more you feel unheard.

Later as he begins to talk to you, are you tempted to walk away from him? If so, have you noticed the gap widens between you?

To stop this chasm from spreading even further, ask the Lord to reveal what causes your husband to walk away. Examine your own heart, your words, and your behavior toward your husband. Is what you say to him uplifting and caring? If not, ask God to help you with that. Then wait upon your Heavenly Father. Don’t walk away from Him. Expect God to answer, to reveal what you have asked of Him.

If your words are sincere, uplifting, and caring, then pray for your husband’s receptiveness but more importantly pray for yourself. Ask your Heavenly Father to change you into His likeness. Perhaps then you will have a greater understanding of your loved one.

How does God’s presence help you draw close to Him when you feel helpless and alienated by your husband?

 

As you can see, these messages can be applied to either spouse.

When I pitched these books to an agent at a writing conference, she responded, “A woman won’t want a paperback of When Your Husband is a Christian—But Doesn’t Always Act Like One lying around the house for her husband to see.”

So, it is available in ebook as well.

That said, if you plan on ordering a copy, I recommend getting both the Husband and Wife paperbacks so when they arrive you can sit down with your spouse and show this is a matter of equal opportunity.

The Last in the Series

When You Have an Unsaved Loved One, is not limited to a spouse who doesn’t know the Lord. The messages in this book will encourage and give you hope for anyone you are praying for to come to Christ. Whether this is a family member, friend, coworker, neighbor, or whoever, the devotions will help you in your faith as well as strengthen your resolve in the face of discouragement.

When You Have an Unsaved Loved One by Mary Stone       

Week 1:  When You Have an Unsaved Loved One

“Thanks be to God, who in Christ always leads us in triumphal procession, and through us spreads the fragrance of the knowledge of Him everywhere.” 

2 Corinthians 2:14 (ESV)

What great news this is!

This means that as you go through your daily routines and are around those who don’t know Jesus as their Lord and Savior, God is at that very moment—through you—spreading the fresh and pleasing fragrance of the knowledge of Him.

Can you imagine this sweet aroma wafting in your wake as you move about? Go a step further and visualize this bouquet enveloping you and your loved ones.

This definitely puts things into different perspective, don’t you think?

Satan would rather have you see your situation as a dark cloud of doom, and in fact, some days that may be what you feel you are in the midst of spiritually when others reject your witness. The next time that cloud descends, rebuke it and replace it with an image of Christ leading you in a triumphal procession, totally enveloped by a delightful fragrance of the knowledge of Him all around you.

How might you cultivate this triumphal procession through a garden of pleasing scent?

To Order . . .

Left click on the url beneath the book. If this doesn’t take you directly you to Amazon’s order page, and another box appears below the first link, click on this second link which will then take you to my Amazon webpage where you can place your order. Paperbacks are $9 and ebooks are $2.99. If you don’t have a Kindle, you can download a free Kindle app onto your computer.

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If you plan on purchasing one or all books, it would help Amazon’s algorithm of my book if you order today or tomorrow. (Books ordered by multiple people within a short window have a better chance of moving up on their recognized list of authors’ books.)

P.S. I am having technical publishing difficulties with When Your Wife Gets on Your Nerves, so that paperback’s final edition is not yet available. (The first printing had an error.) However the ebook is available.

P.P.S. This past week I had “occasion” for practical application. When this situation occured, I thought, Where is my “When Your Husband” book? I need a scripture for just this instance!

If you know of someone who could use these practical application manuals in their relationship(s), I encourage you to send them this blog. Also, would you consider sharing it on your social media? If so, at the bottom of this blog you will see “Share This Story, Choose Your Platform.” Click on that and it will allow you to send this message to whatever site you indicate.

I also would really appreciate an honest review on Amazon. Please accept my gratitude in advance.

Prayer:  Thank you, Lord, for your Word which will not return unto You void. Thank you that you have only good in store for us and our loved ones.

Thought for the Day:  “Love recognizes no barriers, it jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination, full of hope.” Maya Angelou